- having dinner ready for the family
- cleaning the dishes
- doing the laundry
- organizing the baby stuff
- cleaning the car
- grooming our dog
- vacuuming the carpet
I barely found time to eat and shower so getting to the rest of these things were never easy. But what I slowly realized is that I had to let go of control. I had to prioritize. I had to take care of myself so that I could care for baby. So here are some things that I did which helped me be a better mom.
- Hire a nanny. This helped with the chores tremendously. But more importantly, having someone with lots of energy give my baby 100% attention allowed me to rest, rejuvenate, and nourish myself so that I could give him 100% when she was gone.
- Get a masseuse. She came over to our house twice a month and it was a much needed hour long massage each time. I felt so alive and well rested after each session. Even though this may seem too expensive, its important to find ways to make this happen. There’s some clever advice on the http://topmassagechairs.com/ page, they suggest giving up coffee for a month or a fancy dinner to help pay for the massage, it’s a little cheeky but it does the trick. Or get your spouse to give you a nice long massage when the baby is asleep. You and your body deserve the attention and care a massage provides.
- Engage in physical activity. I went to play badminton twice a week for about an hour each time. Badminton is my favorite sport and it enabled me to make new friends and get back into shape. Getting some form of physical exercise not only gives you a boost in endorphins, the feel good hormones, but just gets you out of the house, which for a new mom seems like so much work to do.
- Have a moms night out. I’m a stay at home mom and therefore with my baby 24 hours a day 7 days a week. But its important to continue to have girl time with the lady friends. I needed to preserve my self identity without baby. Get dad to babysit so that you can be baby free for one night.
- Soak in the bath. Even having a 20 minute soak relieves your body of tension. Give yourself a break and listen to some relaxation visualizations.
The act of giving yourself permission to indulge in pampering has tremendous positive benefits. It says I’m important and enables you to give more to your family than you could of if you were tired, sleep deprived, and overwhelmed.
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